Follow the Way of Trees … Trees –“All The Way”…In our culture we are going through the end of the idea that imposing external power is superior to inner power. All over the world people seem to be making their values and needs known as never before. As consciousness evolves we are forced to look at what really matters from deep inside ourselves. As an individual, I don’t believe that I am wise enough to know what is best for another person. My intention here is to share a self empowering way of deepening the connection with your true essence- your soul through your body. The integration of the body is key as the body is contained in the soul and holds memories in your cells. Our culture forces people to be overly driven and competitive, in lieu of being engaged in the flowers of life’s opportunities. Millions of people live from old contracts created with themselves as children. For example, they “think they should” be doing this or that in order to be accepted. And so there is a “pushing through things” as a way of being with life. This derives more from the will, maneuvering for a safe place, not allowing our vulnerability– the truth of our feelings and fears. It took me many years to be real with myself, listen to what I was feeling beneath the emotions of the ego and accept the moment with all of its imperfections and I am still learning. My exploration occurred during my learning the art of painting scenes in the woods. When I placed my hands on trees for the first time I was surprised to feel a vibration. It was the tree’s “energetic essence” I was sensing, emanating through the bark. This was also around the time of my learning more about hands-on healing work, tuning into the vibration of people –for example : not only palpating the size of the liver (learned from my Nurse Practitioner work) but tuning into the vibration of the organ as well as the energy meridians through the body. I learned that every organ, every tissue, every bone, and every cell has its own resonant frequency — its own sound. Ideally together, they create a united harmonious frequency, like the instruments of an orchestra. Yet, when an organ is out of concert with the rest, then the entire body is affected and this disharmony can lead to states of imbalance or disease. This vibration or connection can be felt over long distances as well. Such as phone sessions. My experience led me to more studies of how individual cells are connected through vibration as well as to everyone and everything on the planet. Since then I hold a reverence for each cell in the body as having equal importance. I applied this to aspects of artwork – giving the same attention to each brushstroke and each note on the guitar when playing a melody. As you tune into yourself in that quiet place of a new moment, while truly listening, you can sense your own vibration and hear your own heart and its wisdom. You may not feel it so much as a vibration but sometimes as an instant knowing that comes from within. We were taught to listen in order to respond. When listening without an agenda it creates an opening through the breath for the Divine creative to enter. When you pause and truly listen, purely receiving the new moment, it opens you to ‘receiving’ even more –more prosperity, love, joy and personal creativity. When letting go of the need to be better or more balanced you are being with yourself with honesty. We all have a place in us that can be mean and have made what we consider mistakes or tragedies. When you allow yourself to be present with feelings that you have avoided or pushed down, you open your heart to more easily forgive yourself as well as to forgive others. From here decisions can be made with clarity, as they are not from an emotional place. When you can imagine or feel energy flowing through your body and include your pelvic energy field called ‘dantien’, naval, the center of life force energy, it helps ground you in your physical body to maintain your separateness. Working with people’s relationships I have observed a common occurrence between mothers and daughters. For example during one of my sessions the mother desired to talk with her daughter more often and the daughter felt anxious when her mother called even though she also enjoyed the attention. With my guidance through Body Soul Integration they were both able to tune into their body’s sensations during communication of feelings – they each seemed to find specific places of constriction and pain in their body as the dialog went on. Connecting to sensations in your body is an experience unique for everyone as sometimes you can feel things and other times perhaps not and there are also those who have an instant knowing. As they checked in with their own beating hearts, and tuned in to the feeling underneath the emotion, they were each surprised to find their own sadness and fear. From this heart-connected self acceptance they were able to respond to themselves out of compassion and then noticed the pains and tightness of body sensations fall away, along with anxiety of wanting their needs met. They both expressed that it was enough to be feeling the love and acceptance, and didn’t need to be together as much as they thought. The outcome doesn’t matter when living from your soul, a deeper truth, instead of responding from a place often including emotions attached to input from others. You can think of emotions as feelings in motion (eg. anger, anxiety, frustration) from an egoic response to an outer situation, rather than deep feelings (like sadness, grief or fear) that may be underneath it all that has been avoided or overlooked as a habitual way of relating to ourselves. It is actually getting to the true feeling below the emotions that brings the honesty with yourself home. When you take responsibility to share love in mutuality rather than to “get” love it brings a freedom and new power to take care of yourself. Many people are burdened with a sense of overwhelm when children are acting out or may be in a frustrating relationship with a friend, lover, employee or boss. When we react out of frustration and grab for harsh words or physical combat we are reinforcing the belief that external force is where the power is. When you dominate others you separate them from themselves (who they truly are) and others. In the same way when dominating yourself to “push through” and mostly do the things you really don’t want to do it has a similar affect. In order to change this old habit of being, try first to accept the moment just as it is, knowing there is a reason for it. Pause… Pause, breathe, feel your heart beating and accept. Smile– Genuine smiles and laughter can be a help to let go of your being the center of your world. Others know when you are in your authentic power and you may be surprised at their response. It does take time and getting used to on both sides before relationships dramatically change. This also can be applied to pausing before reaching for food that you really don’t want to eat. It seems a great task for us to stop and pause in order to firmly set limits with family, friends and in all parts of life –to feeling a peaceful heart. Try looking in the mirror, into your own eyes, while just being. When you are present in the light of your authentic energy there is self love. Your true essence produces a vibrational sound unique to you and this tone carries to all cells in your body—it also joins the life force field of every living thing on our planet. From here there is more energy to love yourselves, others and what truly matters –as Joseph Campbell passionately says, to “follow your bliss.” A common response from clients is they fear they will be alone or isolated if “focused on themselves.” It is ‘an illusion’ that we are separate from each other—it is only a matter of allowing the connection that is always there –the connection of the heart and to each other happening at the same time. This is the ineffable connection to God. When opening my eyes in the morning, looking out at the bare winter trees, the branches swaying in the breeze, I notice the stunning shapes between the branches while the trees seem to be dancing together. I am astounded by the connectedness yet uniqueness of every branch and tree. Similarly it seems the more I connect with honesty to my own uniqueness, true essence and love for myself, the more I feel compassion and connectedness to everyone and everything around me. From your wise heart within, there is a gentle power beyond all powers — So let’s all take a deep breath together, in all of human experience (including pain), sing with our cells, dance with the trees, smile with Body and Soul joyfully in community… with all of life. Rosa Maria Nicolosi, RN, LMBT, has had the honor over many years of seeing clients experience higher levels of health and life transformation by introducing them to their individual self-healing abilities. Please feel free to schedule an appointment with Rosa Maria Nicolosi, firstname.lastname@example.org. Sessions are offered on the phone.
“To Clench or Not to Clench”
In all my experience of working in health and healing, since the 60’s, I have learned about what it really takes to create change and/or healing, and to “open to life.” The first step is to not clench.
With all that is going on in our personal lives, the country and the world, we are prone to holding or closing our bodies in a way that causes tension or tightness – clenching. This challenges our bodies energetically. I believe that pain and disease are caused by our patterns of “clenching.” For example, we may unconsciously be lifting our shoulders in a tense position. The major destructive effect of a tense body is that it causes us to hold the breath to a certain extent – not breathing fully into all parts of the lungs. This begins a ripple effect of our oxygenated energy falling short of fully infusing all of our cells. As this blocked energy maneuvers to find an area to flow, the way water flows into empty spaces; it creates patterns that may be causing chronic pain, imbalance and disease. This way of “clenching” or holding the body tightly expresses a way of saying “no” to all the sadness and suffering in the world. But it is also saying “no” to life – saying “no” to all the goodness, too.
I shall attempt to explain how this principle is used in healing work and how you can apply it to living a fuller life. I have been using this perspective in work to “re-pattern” the body, which includes the whole self. The way this works is that when I first put my hands on someone’s body I receive it all as being “perfect” just the way it is. Whatever symptoms that you are experiencing, whatever your body is doing is for a very good reason – pain and discomfort included, as difficult as this may be to accept. This receiving of you as perfect allows the body to relax and “let go”– letting in nourishment that you need on the cellular level. Imagine being still allowing yourself to begin to release on all levels in every cell – as though you are holding yourself as a newborn for the very first time.
This way of being and touch has actually been responsible for correcting scoliosis (curvature of the spine). Allowing displaced vertebrae to first move out of balance and then to realign corrects the curvature. If we attempted to push vertebrae into alignment without respect for the body’s resistance, it would create a polarity and the vertebrae would push right back. You may be able to force things into place, but this only creates a temporary spatial change. The only way for lasting change to occur is to first be truly present with what is. You can focus this to emotional or physical pain, disease, or more as a deepening or expansion to a dimension or quality of your beingness.
So when life brings you a painful situation, what would it be like for you to open your body to it, experience it, feel it, smell it, and visualize the colors of it? Let it happen to you. However you feel it, be in it. Allow your soul to have the experience wholeheartedly. For example, opening to the memory of a pain that is difficult to face, such as physical abuse, may seem unnatural or unacceptable at first. Yet, should these memories surface and you physically “clench”that can lock it into place. If you allow yourself to open, no matter to what extent that you open, there then will be space for the Divine Creative Force to enter and healing to accelerate.
Start by first letting go of the shoulders and breathing. Imagine that you inhale downward through the pelvis to the base of the spine and exhale to a spiral upward through the spine to the very top of your head. Be aware of not only gently inflating all parts of your lungs, but feel or imagine that the entire body is transparent to the breath, and that even the seeming boundary of your skin is no boundary whatsoever. As you do this you are releasing clenching. Should you not be able to open and instead sustain your clench you would still be healing. Just open your mind to the idea of not clenching, soften the clench, accepting it and continue to breathe. There is a difference between clenching and wholeheartedly opening your body and mind to your clench – opening to your “no” – allowing yourself to have the experience totally through all the senses, and open to the clench with all your heart. What does it feel like, smell like and look like?
As you experience your clench to the fullest, you will notice an opening in a new direction of change and healing. Opening to what you think may be a problem is to look at the necessity of what you may consider a problem and even the value as you open to allow your Soul’s experience of the feelings. It may seem challenging at first. It is oftentimes necessary to invite experienced professional assistance. The process of allowing help is often another way of opening to receiving what you need or releasing a clench.
When opening to all of life’s experiences, you will also be learning to open to more pleasure, comfort and joy. Through this process each cell in your body will receive more nourishment. Isn’t this “opening to life” an opening to the light of Love? Image the ripple effect it will be having on the world. I invite you to clench or not to clench, but to open to life through your body as it is.
Rosa Maria Nicolosi, RN, CMT, has had the honor over many years of seeing clients experience higher levels of health and life transformation by introducing them to their individual self-healing abilities. Her core belief is the attainable mastery of self–care.
Please feel free to schedule an appointment with Rosa Maria Nicolosi, email@example.com. Sessions are offered on the phone.
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